The choosing of a wedding planner in “Father of the Bride”
Let’s have some FUN! I’m ready to laugh a little. Plus, if I keep my eyes directed at the screen, I can pretend the mess behind me doesn’t exist. I’ve seen hoarders will cleaner office spaces. So let’s walk away from the boxes and enjoy ourselves!
The other day, I started thinking about my top favorite performances in film (great way to pass they time while hanging up every piece of clothing we own). I could change my list every time I reconsider it, but nonetheless, I love thinking about actors in movies. I brought this topic up with the girls over a long lunch at Steak n’ Shake, and after scribbling our thoughts on a paper place mat, I decided a giveaway would be a GREAT way to kick off the first week in the new house. The girls have a couple days off of school soon, and I’m going to introduce them to “Father of the Bride” (clip above). Martin Short’s performance as Franck Eggelhoffer is on my Top 10 List for Favorite Performances.
I want to hear about your “favorite performances”, not necessarily your “favorite movies”. They often go hand-in-hand, but not always. Ensemble performances don’t count; it has to be a singular, stand-out performance, in which the actor really stretched his/her talents. It would be easy to make up a list of amazing performances (i.e. Humphrey Bogart in “Casablanca”), but I made a list of performances I could watch OVER and OVER and OVER again. Performances that spoke to me (all art is in the eye of the beholder…no judgements!), so while you CAN love Citizen Kane and be my friend, it is not REQUIRED. There are no lines in the sands of coolness on this blog (to quote Ben Stiller from “Reality Bites”).
John Cusack discovering his childhood home has turned into a convenience store.
My List Is As Follows (and changes every time I think about it):
(1) Jared Leto as Rayon in “Dallas Buyers Club” (Dark movie, unbelievably nuanced performance.)
(2) George Clooney as Matt King in “The Descendants” (If you would have told me 3 years ago I would like George Clooney in anything outside of “Ocean’s Eleven”, I would have laughed all over your morning coffee.)
(3) Jon Cryer as Ducky Dale in “Pretty in Pink”. (Because the 80’s matter deeply to me…along with Ducky.)
(4) John Goodman as Walter Sobchak in “The Big Lebowski”
(5) Martin Short as Franck Eggelhoffer in “Father of the Bride”
(6) John Cusack as Martin Blank in “Grosse Pointe Blank” (Also quite possibly my all-time favorite movie, and most certainly, my favorite soundtrack.)
(7) Eddie Murphy as Donkey in “Shrek”
(8) Olympia Dukakis in both “Steel Magnolias” and “Moonstruck”
(9) Rosie O’Donnell as Gina Barrisano in “Beautiful Girls”
(10) Octavia Spencer as Minny Jackson in “The Help”
One of my favorite movie monologues: Rosie O’Donnell in “Beautiful Girls”
The Girls List:
(1) Eddie Murphy as Mushu in “Mulan”
(2) Jerry Seinfeld as Barry B. Benson in “The Bee Movie”
(3) Joshua Gad as Olaf in “Frozen” (Kelly knew his real name, which I found interesting.)
(4) Lindsey Lohan as both Hallie Parker and Annie James in “The Parent Trap” (So sad…she had such promise.)
(5) Mara Wilson as Matilda in “Matilda”
(6) Jennifer Lopez as Mary Fiore in “The Wedding Planner”
(7) Robin Williams as The Genie in “Aladdin”
(8) Kristen Wiig as Lucy in “Despicable Me 2″ (They were blown away when I told them she also voiced Miss Hattie in Part I.)
(9) Dustin Hoffman as Captain Hook in “Hook”
(10) Tom McGrath as Skipper in the “Madagascar” series (the head penguin)
Eddie Murphy as Mushu, the world’s funniest dragon.
Greg’s List (very boy indeed):
(1) Patrick Swayze as Dalton in “Road House”
(2) Kurt Russell as Wyatt Earp in “Tombstone” (One of the best scripts ever written…I agree with Greg on this one.)
(3) Raul Julia as Gomez Addams in ‘The Addams Family”
(4) Liam Neeson as Bryan Mills in “Taken” (Fairly certain your testicles are “taken” if you’re a dude and don’t love this movie.)
(5) Michael Douglas as President Andrew Shepherd in “The American President”
(6) Daniel Day Lewis as Lincoln in “Lincoln”
(7) Brad Pitt as Tyler Durden in “Fight Club” (Again, manhood can be removed for guys not worshiping this film.)
(8) Clint Eastwood as Walt Kowalski in “Gran Turino”
(9) Bill Murray as Steve Zissou in Wes Anderson’s “The Life Aquatic with Steve Zissou”
(10) Ben Stiller as Derek Zoolander in “Zoolander”
Oh Ben Stiller…we just love you.
So here are the oh-so-complicated rules: leave a comment ON THE BLOG (FB comments are fun, but won’t enter you into the contest) and tell me your favorite performances in film. Every comment is an entry, so leave as many as you like (if you want to make a list, enter them as separate comments and increase your chance of winning). It’s still an entry if your list of faves match any of ours printed above. The winner will be chosen by a random number generator at 8 pm on Sunday, November 2nd, EST. The winner will be able to choose between a gift card to their favorite theater, a fandango gift card, or an Amazon Gift Card to buy a movie online, value $20.
I can’t wait to see your lists!! I just love movies. Way more than boxes. Way, way, WAY more than boxes….
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See? Now that wasn’t so hard, was it? Only 6 months of repainting and cleaning, followed by selling the house, followed by a quick move while finishing a PTA Presidency and treating a little pesky cancer, followed by 6 months in 2 haunted apartments, followed by a 3 day move into our dream house. EASY PEASY LEMON SQUEEZY!
It was SO SIMPLE that the picture above illustrates the ONE thing I’ve managed to unpack in 7 days. This ball of rubber bands has found a permanent home, if only because after putting it away, I will probably never locate it again.
The move, while a ton of work, was actually a lot of fun. The girls moved in first: all stuffed animals and loveys went in before a single box was lifted. Kelly has one in her mouth in the picture above. There was much dancing and bally-hoo on closing day. They had a “moment”, but I told them a story about buying my first house, and Aunt Jenny walked me around the block a couple of times before gently saying, “Lori. You bought your first house a couple of hours ago. You know you’ll eventually have to go inside, right?” It’s OK to be scared of new things, even if they are flat-out wonderful. Everything is AWESOME!
I’ve created and changed this vignette about 50x. I’ve found creating vignettes is more fun than unpacking.
The next 3 days were a parade of painters (I missed my buddies!) After all we’ve been through, seeing familiar and friendly faces made all the difference. I lost track of how many contractors paraded through on any given day, but it was…crazy. Greg and I stood in the middle of it all, directing traffic and laughing like we’d won the lottery. Movers, delivery men, the closet guy (I’m thinking Hector might be a superhero)…and in those first harried hours, you think, “Wow! We have so much space! We’ll never fill it.” Everything is AWESOME!
Those hours pass, though. Carpet tacks needed a bit of repair. The tub (now known as the tub of irony) has pinhole leaks in the jet piping. Small, small things. But what was that noise coming from under the deck? I found 3 men, taking the underside of my deck apart, and while most of this conversation occurred through mime, I believe they were telling me one board caused the entire deck to flunk inspection. New homes have to be turned on. I knew that going in. This would take a little time, and more time than my CIA Cleaners from the apartment would spend on repairs. When that tub sprung a leak and gooshed through the ceiling, the entire repair took about 2 minutes. Did it look good? No. Was there only a 50-50 chance it would hold? Sure. I’m back to being an actual homeowner now. My repair plans have to be AWESOME!
The movers finished, and we were left with the stunning impression we have way, way, WAAAAYYY too much junk. Our space is overflowing with God-knows-what. I really don’t know what, because every time I empty a box, 3 more pop up in its place. It’s like a playing this weird Whack-A-Mole game, and I’m definitely losing. I think I’ve been unpacking the kitchen for 5 straight days. Still, I cooked. I laid out coffee bars, and adorable displays of homemade muffins. The ovens? They are AWESOME! The range? It is AWESOME!
Everything is AWESOME! The weekend came. 5 sweaty hours of hard labor and we are officially moved out of the (now spotless) haunted apartment. I hated to pull up those thriving marigolds, but it was time to say goodbye. We quietly rolled through our OH-SO-GORGEOUSLY-QUIET weekend. Lots to do, with only the nearby church bells to ring to break the solitude. We thought we’d finally uncovered the reason for this summer’s journey. It was about gratitude. The garbage disposal doesn’t pull the sink off the wall. We can flush toilets AT THE SAME TIME someone is in the shower. The dryer DRIES THINGS. I think Greg and I stopped to hug each other 20x. Until Sunday evening, when I heard my husband utter a curse word I’ve never, EVER, in 12 years, heard him say.
BUT, if you slice through the palm of your hand with a box cutter, you might be tempted to say it. Just once. He only said it once, but I knew that was enough to grab the keys and head to the ER. 4 stitches later, Greg was insisting…EVERYTHING IS STILL AWESOME! I wasn’t entirely convinced, as I wrangled the tired girls into their own rooms for the first time since Kelly was an infant, but I wanted to keep the faith. And the Advil close, because I knew the numbing agent would eventually wear off.
The start of probable Project #1. Hard to say…there are just so many refinishing projects to choose from!
Today? A little less awesome. The tetanus shot hurts like hell, but Greg still managed to assemble 5 large shelving units, single-handedly (literally, because he’s down to one hand). Greg is a champ, but I hit some sort of wall this morning. The plumber showed up for the 4th day in a row with parts for the Tub of Irony. I have so-named this tub, because I did not order it. I did not choose a jetted tub, but a jetted tub was installed, nonetheless. Why didn’t I order a jetted tub? Because they are more trouble than they are worth. I feel the same way about water dispensers on the fronts of refrigerators, and granite counter tops. I do have granite, as my builder laid out my choices, and I was able to choose between granite and granite. If I didn’t like those 2 choices, he also had granite. HOWEVER, I ordered MY OWN FRIDGE. No ice spewing onto my floors, thank you very much!
I never even noticed the tub had jets until my inspector noticed they didn’t work. Because they weren’t plugged in. Because no outlet had been installed, as I had not ordered jets. Lucky me! An outlet was put in immediately! Yeah! FREE JETS! THAT…..LEAK! The plumber gave up today and installed all new piping. At Day #4 of repairs on a tub I neither ordered nor paid for, this man has moved into my bathroom. I forget he’s up there most of the time, but I’ve lost my patience all the same. When the Security Guy (after a 3 hour appointment), tried to tell me the cats wouldn’t set off the motion detectors unless they gave each other piggy-back rides at midnight? What can I say? I gave Greg a very odd look, and just walked away. Lori was officially over the moving honeymoon. Now she just wants her quiet house, a cup of coffee, and some privacy. PLEASE. I’ve lived next door to 7 boys for the last few months…just one moment of peace.
Most of the house looks like this. All other rooms are perfectly empty, much like my “new home” decorating fund.
Yep, today was the yucky day I cleaned off the (new-to-me) antique dining room set, and realized I’ll have to refinish it after all. Scrubbing grooves with Q-tips on your knees with a plumber stopping by to say, “So that didn’t work”, was enough to send me over the edge. I went to make a little something, when I smelled? GAS. Under my gas range. Super. Plumber #2 has been scheduled, and for now, my gas has been shut off. We’re back to Costco dinners I can throw in the oven, which I am SO OVER…there are just no words. I spent every free moment this weekend cutting out recipes I cannot wait to make, all of which require a thing I like to call, “a stove”.
Between the empty rooms, and overflowing rooms, and half-put together rooms, all requiring months of work, I called Greg nearly in tears this afternoon. He told me everything was so awesome, and I told him to stick it up his box cutter. But then I picked up the girls, who were all flavors of sunshine today. Our commute is 20 minutes shorter per day, which means we’re in the car for no time at all. They were even content to do homework. At bedtime, we cuddled and read picture books we’ve sorely missed while they lived in boxes. They didn’t squabble even once. They aren’t in love with separate rooms just yet, but I’ve been placing a speaker in between their 2 doorways, and playing their favorite classical music at night. Not a sound as they fall asleep…and there you have it.
I had a moment of peace. I was able to crawl over a mountain of boxes to find my computer and say hello to you lovely people. I still have an unreal amount of work to do, just to find my shoes…but what does it matter? I’m not going anywhere. I hope you won’t either. It’s been a long summer, and your loyalty had not gone unnoticed. I think it’s time we return to our regular programming.
EVERYTHING IS AWESOME. Godspeed, dear readers. Godspeed.
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Dear Duck and Bunny (who used to go by Chick, but is now going by Bunny),
Moving sucks. Everyone knows this, and now you know this too. Everything I’ve done, or said, or cheerleaded has only made it worse. I know it’s the apartment-disease talking, but as I walked into our chaos tonight after spending 3 hours at Immediate Care for Kelly’s Earache-Du-Jour, and picked up a random-who-knows-what-bug off the floor…I hit yet a new wall of emotional exhaustion. I wanted to write this now, because someday, you’ll be 42, and moving with a family, and you’ll call. You’ll tell me it’s utter hell, and I’ll have forgotten. I’ll be full of Chablis on the beach, admiring my new sunhat, and I’ll say something totally stupid, like…you’ll be fine. Everything will be just fine. Oh yes…I’ll say it. Ignore me, and read this instead:
Uprooting children out of the only home they’ve ever known has FAR reaching consequences. It’s not “life-change-light”…I promise. This pain goes deep. Your kids are going to FREAK THE FLIPPETY FREAK OUT. You will be of no use. You will be freaking out as well. Why? Because moving is very expensive and stressful and even the best of marriages have to plow through some tough days to get the job done. It’s like one, huge, pan-family-freak-out. In response to the insane energy flowing through your families’ pipes, your kids will do wicked-crazy things like…cut their own hair, and misbehave in school, and throw dirt at their friends at recess. They’ll do things so out of character, you’ll spend many days picking your jaw up off the ground. You might think aliens have stolen their minds, but that’s where you’re missing the boat. Because in reality? They are so, so very sad. They are grieving “home”, and that’s an authentic pain akin to grieving a death.
You’ll do it wrong. You’ll tell them to look forward to new bedrooms and new parks and really dumb things like new memories. THEY DO NOT WANT NEW MEMORIES! They want their old rooms, and their old, horrible commutes, and everything that was wrong with the old house? Yep, they want that too. Kids wants “same”, even if “same” wasn’t working. You’ll waste months trying to focus them on a future they can’t imagine. It will only make it worse.
So PLEASE, do what I did and go to the School Psychologist’s office. ASK FOR HELP. It will come. Someone wiser than you can redirect you…backwards…as this case may be. Your kids need to make scrapbooks of their old home, and spend hours reminiscing about the life you shared with them there. The tears will fall, but in and around the laughter, as you talk about the time Max fell into the trash can while chasing a chicken bone. There will still be hard moments, and then, I want you to call each other. When one of you can’t remember the story of the night Santa brought the playroom, the other will. I won’t remember, because…well? Chablis. Perhaps you’ll get the sage advice I received from my own sister this afternoon (during Kelly’s 19th nervous breakdown): “For God’s sakes Lori, just hand her a Ding Dong.”
And you know what? It worked. I had to buy a Ding Dong first, but then it totally worked. The important thing is for them to learn to put their pain where their pain belongs. Not in a dirt clod they hurl at a girlfriend. (WHO DOES THIS? Seriously girls. Who taught you to do this? Was it a Disney show? I know you sneak those shows when I’m not looking.) It’s OK for some things to suck, even when we try our best to turn them into exciting adventures. We’ve had an adventure alright, just a different kind. The kind Stephen King may turn into a book someday, but we can talk about that later. Speaking of this summer’s nightmarish flavor, who has the Chablis? Did I just digress?
Tomorrow, this adventure ends. We pack up your scrapbooks, memories, and our cats, we finally get to go home. Sara, you have named the house, “The New Chapter”, and as much as I love this title, I promise you both to never forget we started someplace else. I know we won’t forget, because I wrote it all down, right here…in my own little scrapbook. I hope you don’t mind, but I shared it with a “few” friends. They’ve been my cheerleaders when I lost my way.
Let’s do the neighborly thing, and invite them to come with us tomorrow. Won’t you join us? A new chapter will begin, and it just wouldn’t be the same without you. Godspeed, my dear readers. Godspeed to you for hanging with me this past year. We couldn’t have made it without you. GIRLS! Your manners! Say thank you! Now here’s a box. Put something in it. No…not the cat.
In closing, moving sucks. Wisdom Comes Suddenly. Moving on…(literally)…
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October 14th, 2014 · Comments Off
How many barrettes does it take to keep their bangs back? ALL THE BARRETTES.
At School Pick Up Last Week:
Me: Sara. Huh. So I see you gave yourself bangs at school today.
Sara: (Looking sheepish): Yeah.
Me: I thought you didn’t want bangs. You haven’t had them in years.
Sara: I don’t! I just got…upset. And so I cut off a piece of my hair!
Me: That’s a pretty big feeling to cut off your hair. What happened?
Sara: I had to miss part of recess.
Me: Did you get a lot of checks this week?
Sara: (Looking sheepish): Yeah. Talking in class. Not putting my name on my papers…it was not good. Lots of kids missed part of recess today.
Me: Did they cut their hair too? Was this a…”thing”?
Sara: NO! Can’t you just cut it to the bottom by my scalp and make it go away?
Me: That’s called a bald spot, and I promise, it will take your new bangs from bad to much, much worse. They aren’t that bad; in fact, I think they are cute. We’ll have Nicole over at the salon clean them up a bit. No biggie.
Sara: NO! I don’t want bangs!
Me: Little too late for that decision sweetie. You got ‘em. Don’t worry…hair grows quickly, especially yours. In the meantime, we can bobby pin them back, just like I do Kelly’s.
Kelly: WHY DO YOU DO THIS?
Sara: I DON’T KNOW! I JUST GOT NERVOUS AND I FELT BAD, AND THERE WERE SCISSORS IN MY HAND…SO I CUT MY HAIR!
Kelly: NO. Not why did you cut your hair. Why do you cut the FRONT? When I want to cut my hair, I just lift up the back and take a chunk out from underneath! No one can even SEE IT!
[We will bleep over everything I said from this point forward. Nicole did a lovely job of shaping Sara's new-do, and she's received so many compliments on her bangs, she feels much better about the entire "event". Luckily, they are just long enough to pull into a braid, and with a few tiny bobby pins, she can choose to look like the old Sara. Holding my breath for what these two do to their hair in high school.]
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Not so much a scarf, as a cancer.
I’m less of a trend-follower, and more of a trend-noticer. As a purist consignment shopper, I have to beg out of most trends, using the claim, “I’m eclectic”, or “I like a more classic look”. That’s my way of saying I’m too cheap to shop at the Mall. However, I’ve noticed scarves have staying power this time around, filling up the second hand stores. As they have progressed into our wardrobes, I can’t help but also notice they are getting bigger. Like…MUCH BIGGER. Like…I think they may be DEVOURING OUR BODIES bigger.
Let’s take a walk through Pinterest and do some research, shall we?
This scarf has eaten her boobs. Her twin ladies were lunch. Her titty-tangs have been digested by knit.
Oh my God. Call for help! This scarf has eaten my arm, and most of my hand! Just the one! I don’t know why JUST THE ONE!
She might be entirely naked under here. You don’t know. She may not even know.
Having swallowed her hoo-hoo dillies, this scarf is now headed for her cha-cha. Not good. Not good at all.
Brain-eating scarf. Tragedy 101.
Your music teacher from 1982 called. She wants her scarf back.
We call this, “The whole world is your gynecologist” scarf. Or more delicately, the “I see London, I see France” technique.
Oh my God Becky! I’m wearing knit on my torso, my neck, and my head! My knit stole your knit’s boyfriend. SERIOUSLY.
This is NOT KNIT! It’s an actual LEOPARD! HELP ME!!!!
Remember when the chefs starting throwing different flavors together and calling it “fusion”? This is fusion-scarving. Plaid meets punk. It tastes as bad as it looks.
The opposite would be deconstructionist-scarving. I’ll admit it. I kind of want this scarf. I’m a rebel, and I like…twigs.
Camo AND monogramming? We’ve got the Belle of the South right here. The Scarlet O’Hara of scarves. This scarf may NOT be worn north of the Mason-Dixon line.
I’m breezy! And warm. Wait. Am I more breezy, or am I more warm? Well, I mean I’m freezing. Faux-leather jackets are NOT warm, per se. Screw it. I’m breezy.
Scarves, HERE! Come get your SCARVES, HEEE-RAH!
Because it morphs as you wear it, we call it the amoeba-scarf. It will eat you differently, every single day.
Yes, I always look like I JUST left the beach. But it was chilly…which is why I’m wearing a scarf. With flip flops and a tank top.
When you are fully eaten by your scarf, you become a scarf zombie, as shown above.
Your awesome zombie colors eventually fade, and you look like this, aka, the 7th layer of scarf hell.
Unless you’re eaten by a head scarf, in which case you will suffer from sudden scarf death. A scarf postmortem patient is pictured above.
Just say no to head scarves you guys. It only takes one scarf to kill you.
This scarf beat your scarf for Prom Queen.
We look ridiculous.
NO, we don’t.
We look like knit-twins! This is stupid!
Shut up and try to look natural. Like we were supposed to call each other and check outfits?
You’re right. We’re not in middle school. OK. We look awesome. We are 7 feet tall, after all.
Just promise me you’ll never do this. N-E-V-E-R. I’m not kidding…pinkie swear this very second.
Cover your heart, Indy!
I’m being eaten by a boa constrictor, a boa constrictor, a boa constrictor…
No, really, don’t take my picture. I’m in Scarves Anonymous. And Louis Vuitton Anonymous. And Kate Spade Ballet Flats Anonymous.
I’m just going to say it: No matter how complex the technique, the scarf looks the same. Like a tangled mess of crap.
Above you see the drape, wrap, wrap again, tuck, pull-under, and tie technique, or DWWATPUATT, for short.
My case in point. Finished look? Turd pile around your neck.
What was I supposed to pick up at the store? Ugh. I can’t remember! This scarf has been cutting oxygen off to my brain for months. Can’t…take…it…off…
If you’ve enjoyed our review of female-eating scarves, please leave a comment, and I shall proceed with other trends. I think we all know what needs to be tackled next:
The Dreaded Chest-Eating Necklace Trend.
DUDES. I’d need to halo brace to hold that thing up.
“I’m wearing the entire sun around my neck! SELFIE!”
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October 5th, 2014 · Comments Off
It’s October. October is long for us. Very, very long. A) Kelly hates, and I mean HATES Halloween. Scary, grotesque, ridiculously frightening holiday for any girl who lives most of her day in fantasy. Kelly doesn’t yet separate real from fantasy, and by God, there is just no way to make this phase pass. B) The majority of her stuffed animals have been in storage for almost 6 months. They are real to her, and therefore, we hear about their peril. Every.single.day. For 6 months, Kelly’s stuffed animals are suffering.
We just don’t have the room in this apartment, and we’ve kept as many as we can manage. Greg was regularly taking her to switch them out in storage so she could check on their welfare, but by mid-summer, it just became too much for her. The tears! We went stuffed animal cold turkey, and it seemed to help. That, and Papa Bump sending her an insane amount of birthday money which he insisted she spend entirely on stuffed animals. As he was near death, I let her. He suckered me with all that surviving and thriving he did afterwards. Those two probably cooked up his heart attack, just to add to her collection. DO NOT PUT THIS PAST THEM! I know when I’ve been schnookered by Ira and his tiny twin.
It was with sadness and great sincerity that Kelly informed me last week her stuffed animals had contracted an illness known as “aidrocardinoids” (she spelled it for me, and it’s apparently pronounced “eye-dro-card-in-oids”). She gave me the woeful turn of events thusly: Her raccoon decided he wanted the unicorns’ food, so he poisoned them. In his haste to cover up the crime (as if being a bandit-faced raccoon surrounded by dead unicorns wasn’t incriminating enough), he failed to wash his hands. As he must suffer from some version of a stuffed animal anti-social personality disorder, he then went out and shook the hands of every stuffed animal in the forest.
Casualties of War
And there you have it. Her entire collection in storage has a poison-induced disease known as “aidrocardinoids”. I had her recant the entire tale to her father over the phone while he was at work, and when they said their goodbyes, she replied, “Daddy is finally taking me seriously. I’m so relieved he understands my stuffed animals.” Unfortunately, their survival is dubious. In fact, she told my friend Stephanie last Friday, “They’re dead. They are ALL DEAD.” She recanted her story the next day when she discovered the WORLD’S GREATEST AND MOST AWESOME HALLOWEEN COSTUME!! OH MOMMY, CAN I HAVE IT?! PLEASE?! I MUST HAVE IT.
I told her she was welcome to spend her remaining birthday money on it, as she is on a stuffed-animal-purchasing hiatus. She replied,”That’s actually a much better plan. I don’t WANT to buy any stuffed animals during this aidrocardinoids crisis. They’ll only the spread the disease to the new animals. The cure is probably plant-based, because most cures are. I think we’ll find the answer in a flower, but it’s fall. The flowers are dying. I don’t see a cure arriving until spring. So, you see, I should buy this Queen costume instead. It’s just the smart thing to do, considering.” I was rather relieved to hear they weren’t “all dead”. Starting her collection over from scratch IS SIMPLY NOT HAPPENING.
So this is the story of how Kelly is finally looking forward to Halloween. She couldn’t be more excited to be a beautiful, pink Queen in a hoop skirt. Please don’t take that to mean she wants to leave the house or enter into any stores not pre-shopped by me (I have to go in first and check out the Halloween decor…if it’s scary…she isn’t going). That doesn’t mean she doesn’t cringe every time we get in the car. Scary ads for haunted houses drive her nuts. She has their locations memorized all over the city. In fact, I had to send my poison pen over to Simon Malls just this morning for a tasteless ad hanging in the center of the Castleton Mall. Shame on you Simon! Toddlers see that nasty sign every day! Scaring little kids is just gross.
While on the stuffed animal wagon, she convinced Daddy to MAKE her a lovey! Mommy’s scraps and a Sharpie. Advantage: Daddy.
This evolution of events hit me hard. Her stuffed animals are near death and she is almost-kind-of-sort-of wishing for Halloween. Does this smack of the end of her fantastical thinking? Huh. Do I wish for this to pass? I do and I don’t. Kelly has always been a little detached from reality, and I cannot imagine her any other way. I cannot imagine relating to her day-to-day without adjusting my frame of reference to include the reality of fairies, pragmatic conversations with an endless sea of loveys, and the hope that Santa will bring the imaginary toys she invents in her mind. It can be very challenging to hold a conversation with Kelly, but her fantasy has become my reality. Perhaps I like it more than I care to admit…
I have assured her the stuffed animals will be the first things to move into the new house, assuming that while I’m neck-deep in boxes, she’ll beg me to set up a triage center in the middle of the mess. If any of you have critical care stuffed animal nurses you could spare, I’d be so very grateful. Greg is on the opposite side of the fence. He thinks this evolution spells a new, and darker depth, of Kelly’s imaginary world. He sees Stephen King novels in her future. Wow. I suddenly feel a lose-lose scenario coming on. Either way, the next few weeks are sure to be a wild ride. Stay tuned…
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Sara is studying James Whitcomb Riley, so we could assume a poem assignment would make an appearance. Per her usual, she built a “homework tent” for privacy, and emerged with this little gem:
My Auntie is like a friend to me.
She plays, she talks, she’s awesome.
She plays like a monkey,
She dances like a diva.
Even the pink hue of my walls reminds me of us together.
The day on the water in the yellow canoe stays with me forever.
I love my Auntie. She is cool!
Yep. Your Auntie is cool. Very soon it will be time to make the trek home to celebrate with her and Almost Uncle Aaron. So much excitement. So much preparation. So much anticipation at the idea of an engagement party which certain young ladies are old enough to attend. The formality of it all! The dresses! The shoes! They couldn’t hold more love in their hearts for these two…as they are already filled to overflowing. Get some rest Auntie. Your biggest fans are talking of nothing but…
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October 1st, 2014 · Comments Off
Greg and I have long felt this picture best represents the MO of our apartment complex. This electrical pole has been sitting in the center of the turn lane into our complex for many months, along with the brilliant concrete barrier that keeps drivers from plowing into it. When we pass it, we like to say, “Welcome! Where execution requires zero planning whatsoever!”
In a few short weeks we’ll be driving out of this hell hole for the last time. I won’t cry, I promise. But where will we find our too-hard-to-believe stories now? Just this past week we were given a spry 12 hours notice to move our cars, lest they be towed during the repaving project. As I parked far, far away on the day of the repaving, the maintenance team hollered through the tar-soaked air that I had 3 days to once again, “secure my pets”. It was time for annual maintenance. Annual? As opposed to the daily I receive now? It involved the furnace, repainting my front door, and other invasions of privacy that caused me to take off and hang out at the coffee shop for a while. It wasn’t nearly as loud as the city crew in my back yard, who are ripping out the sidewalk behind our newest abode; at least those guys don’t randomly poke their head in my front door, yelling out random names of missing crewmen. I finally shut and locked my wet door. Screw it. I wanted to make my soup in peace.
But my favorite event this past month has to be our meeting of the new Property Manager (even more fun than our 6th visit from the cable company, when the exasperated technician said, “Honestly, nothing in this complex ever works correctly.”). Greg had reason to stop by the office, as they charged us $50 for not moving our utilities “in a timely manner”. I guess moving the utilities the same day you are notified of the new address isn’t fast enough.
Manager: I’m not sure how this happened. I’ll credit your account.
Greg: I’ll take it off the rent as you still haven’t credited our account for our moving expenses. Which I’ll be withholding from the rent check as well.
Manager: Sure! And how has your stay here with us been? Has it been pleasant?
Greg: The last manager didn’t tell you?
Manager: Tell me what?
Greg: We’re SUING you. This has been an unlivable nightmare. Horrible summer of misery.
Manager: OH. I’m so sorry. I didn’t know.
Greg: Let me give you a piece of advice: whatever you do, avoid my wife.
Manager: Oh, no. I definitely want to meet her.
Greg: No, you don’t.
Manager: But I do! I want to hear from her about her concerns.
Greg: NO….you DON’T. Trust me. Stay…away…from…Lori.
Manager: Tell her I’m here, and she is welcome to stop by anytime.
Greg: You should hope that doesn’t happen.
But it did happen. I did stop by. I did hand over the now 4-page list, detailing our summer adventures. I smiled politely, and told them if they change anything, they should keep the electrical pole at the front entrance. Because if you can’t be a good example, you can at least be a horrible warning.
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September 28th, 2014 · Comments Off
When I try to think honestly about how long it has taken me to write this piece, the truthful answer is 5 years. I started writing it on paper 2 years ago, after 3 years of stewing. And I erased it. Erased it again. Screamed at it. Let Greg read it. Agreed with him it should be erased…
Last summer a writer named Lisa Endlich Heffernan wrote a piece on The Huffington Post, covering her regrets for choosing to be a Stay At Home Mother. I was floored. I talked to all of my friends about her article, trying to make heads or tails of it. I have many notes scribbled on restaurant napkins, most covered in pizza sauce…it’s not pretty.
Finally, my friend of many decades, Melissa, said to me (as we stood with our feet in a creek watching our children hunt for crawdads), “You HAVE to write it. I need you to write it. You CAN write it.” So I did, every single day for 2 months. I wanted my words to come from love. I wanted to join us together, not split us apart. I wanted to be OK with walking away from my career, not just in my heart, but in my head. I’ve always been at peace with leaving my job, but honestly? I’ve never been able to put words to these emotions.
My 9 Non-Regrets of Being A SAHM, published at Indy’s Child, Dayton’s Parent, and Cincinnati Parent online magazines.
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I would plant for you a field of Mums, and turn away anyone so lofty as to add the chysanthe- to the front (unless they were referring to the great literature of Kevin Henkes, in which case, we would become fast friends). I would build over-sized vignettes of Indian Corn, pumpkins, and disgustingly mutant gourds on your front porch, so you could greet both fall, and your visitors, in high style. We would sit on the porch and drink spiced cider, giggling our inside joke that ALL corn is actually Indian Corn. City folk make us laugh. Then we’ll sigh and complain the 73 degree sunny days are too few, because we know 30 degree mornings will be upon soon. Mums don’t last long enough, and neither does autumn, but one truth remains the same: Indian Corn is forever. Ha!
Get up off that chair, or we’ll miss the Fall Festivals! I’m not going to miss the chance to see the predictable painted saws (who buys these, and where do they hang them?) and crocheted toilet paper koozies. There is nothing I hate more than lonely, cold toilet paper, just waiting its turn. We’re not leaving until we’ve seen at LEAST 15 different scarecrows holding “Happy Fall Y’all!” signs, and 200 sweaters handmade in Peru. It’s our PROCESS. It’s TRADITION.
Maybe we should stop at the orchard on the way home. It was too cool of a summer for the apples to be very sweet, so I’ll get double the Jonathons as I did last year. RATIO! You can’t make a decent pie without thinking through your ratio! Wouldn’t fried biscuits with apple butter taste just right at this very moment? We could stop by the pumpkin patch, and marvel at how children always choose pumpkins double their body weight. Every.single.time. Ain’t no way we’re hauling those things. Buy it at the grocery and they’ll take it to your car for free.
Beautiful Fall. Beautiful friends. Beautiful times spent marveling at the abundance of it all. I would plant you a field full of mums, so you could have them in every color. Just because….just because.
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